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Sunday, August 23, 2020

A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE?

 A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE?


In as much as this phrase is true, there is a side of extreme to it, as some may use it as an excuse to leave a relationship that has been for years with no issues for another "promising" relationship. Yes, don't marry anyone out of pity but don't wake love before time because the hurt it will bring will be a deep hurt that will leave some scars.


Imagine having sex with someone you have been in a relationship with for years and you guys have had several abortions and now you're saying you want to break up? After you have broken and scattered her life. You must finish what you have started because you can't use this phrase to judge the reason why you must break up.


Some ladies, the guy have been spending a lot on them for years and they said they're both in love and now you're saying you want to break up because he's not educated that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage because you have found a guy in the school you get to and he seems to be from a rich home, you must be joking.


This is why you need to explore friendship before getting into a "committed" relationship. You'll always have issues as long as you're aborting the process that relationship requires that further leads into marriage. Never use this phrase on the table of mediocrity. Don't be fooled.


Tope Akinyele

The Love Transformers

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PHYSICAL ATTRACTIONS MAY BE DECEPTIVE...

 PHYSICAL ATTRACTIONS MAY BE DECEPTIVE...


While I will say that you should seek the physical attraction before getting into a relationship, I will also say that it can be deceptive.


Some times in relationship, what you want may be the reason why you will enter into a wrong relationship.


When the weakness of a man is known then his life is exposed and this is why as much as physical attraction is important, understand that it could be deceptive.


Most times in marriage, people don't get all they want in their partner, yet the contentment you find in their lives is rich than having all they want.


While I also understand that when you don't get what you want could be a means of distraction because you now see what you want yet you're hooked to what you don't want.


Please note that as much as having 100% of what you want in your partner, if contentment is lacking in your heart then, you are as good as someone who don't have all they wanted in their partner and are never satisfied.


I must conclude this way that physical attraction does not tell the inner configuration of a person, it just give the judgement of how the person looks and what you may be proud of publicly.


While the inner configuration may take some time to know because we seek the physical attractions that gets our eyes off the inner one. Which later, the inner configuration of such may completely make us hate the physical attraction that we once had.


Tope Akinyele

The Love Transformers

#TheLoveTransformers

STEPS YOU SHOULD CONSIDER BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED

 STEPS YOU SHOULD CONSIDER BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED


1. BE A LOVER OF GOD

It's important to have a relationship first with God before considering entering a relationship and it shouldn't be primarily to get a right partner but to have a fellowship with God. I must say that, as much as God is important for you to choose the right partner, you'll need Him much more to keep the person. That is why you need God not just for a partner but to have a personal relationship with Him.


2. NEVER MARRY AN UNBELIEVER OR SOMEONE WHO IS LUKEWARM

I don't know why someone who is a child of God would ever try to consider marrying an unbeliever, saying he or she would change him or her. That's something you'll get yourself to weep for. It's important to marry someone who is more mature spiritually than you are or on the same level as you and not one who is even lukewarm spiritually.


3. NEVER OVERLOOK ANY NEGATIVE BEHAVIOUR

Most singles today would prefer to keep a relationship on the notion of "she will change". Listen, marriage does not change people, whatever you see in your partner today during your courtship, you'll get double of it in marriage. Marriage doesn't build maturity in people, no, not all; you've got to be mature to get married. Don't overlook that negative behaviour from your partner. Ask questions.


4. LET YOUR PASTOR KNOW ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Why hide your relationship from your parents or pastor? Inform your pastor that you're in a relationship and, the purpose isn't for confirmation of if you are with the right person or not, you should have known that before now and carried him along. I am sure your pastor would want to ask you some questions to shake your doubt and help your claims that that person is the one, you may now choose to either tell him the truth, lie or keep things from him. He can't force you to marry or not to marry the person but you'll bear the consequences yourself.



5. MEET EACH OTHER'S PARENTS

Now this is the introduction that people do, but as a way to make your partner known to your parents and he should make you known to his parents. If one of you is hiding this part then maybe you're not ready for marriage. The first responsibility of getting into marriage is to be able to show your partner to your parents. They would have been expecting this so, let them be aware and get their go-ahead. Peradventure they then don't like or accept your partner, pray and ask your parents questions. They may have their reasons for it. 



6. SPEND TIME IN COURTSHIP

Though in my new book you'll get to read about this more, I will say you should take time in your courtship. Don't spend one month in courtship and then commence wedding preparations towards getting married. That may not be good enough. Most folks who come for counselling, one major problem which is common to them is that they never spend time in courtship. People don't take courtship period seriously or very important but I must tell you, you need to be serious with your courtship period. There are some things you need to know about the person you intend to marry... 


©Tope Akinyele 

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