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Sunday, July 5, 2020



3 John 1:2 KJV
 Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.

It is God’s will that we prosper and remain healthy in our relationships.
Talking about healthy relationship here does not necessarily mean health, but a more wider understanding on keeping a long lasting relationship for a purposeful life.

First let us quickly understand the meaning of ‘Habit’ and ‘Healthy’

๐Ÿ”…HABIT: A settled or regular tendency or practice especially one that is hard to give up

๐Ÿ”…HEALTHY: This comes from the word health and simply describes been in a state of good health. We can also say it is possessing a sound health and vigorous mentality.

Now bringing these two together... I want you to take note of the words... ‘Sound’ ‘Mentality’ ‘Regular Tendency, Practice

With these I can say that a Healthy Relationship is one which has a regular tendency or practice that conforms with sound mentality.

In general, “A healthy relationship is one which possesses sound health and vigorous mentality in which the body (the individuals involved) have a sound state of mind, are physically and mentally matured and offcourse responsible for their actions.

When you purchase a car, for that car to remain at optimum, there is what we call maintenance. The car must be checked regularly for any unwanted sound, leakage, oil gauge, etc. keeping all these in check helps to preserve the longevity of the car. 
As you spend time and money maintaining your car, so also relationships require time, effort, resources to keep it healthy and these human habits are what we will be looking at in this teaching.

What makes a relationship healthy?


The mind must be matured. Relationships are not for children. They are not for boys and girls.

Genesis 1:27 KJVsays

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

God would not place some responsibilities in the hands of children. He needed someone to take charge and have dominion over all the cattle of the earth and he didn’t create a baby but MAN clearly indicating that relationships are not for boys and girls but two matured individuals.

In the same

Genesis 2:18 KJV
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 

Note the “man”

Indicating that you must be matured to handle some situations that will or may arise in your relationship.
Maturity in mind, thoughts (thinking ability), spending, care, understanding, etc

This also applied to the lady. Both individuals should be able to settle their differences with a third party interference.

You are responsible for your actions. Whatever decisions you take, you should be ready to flow with the resulting action. The blame game should be shelved aside.

Let me quickly talk to the men here... Everyman is a father figure.

Listen the word Father in Greek interpretation means “pata” meaning “source” “sustainer”

For a relationship to be sustained, the majority lies on you as the man. You are the source. When God created man, the Bible says he formed the woman out of the man.... the man is the source. All the offsprings comes from you.

Now why does most men have the tendency of calling their lady “baby”..... it flows naturally right? Yes she is your baby and you are to treat her as one.
Women are looking for Father not husbands. 

There are too many husbands in the world today and that is why we have so much marital problem.
Be responsible for you actions.
Ladies be responsible, take up some duties, don’t wait on him all the time. You can spring up positive surprises, you could spice up your relationships with great ideas. Just be responsible.

Over and over again, communication has proven to be a very essential commodity in sustaining relationships. If you want a healthy relationship, communicate. Get feedback, act on it. 

*Ask questions
*Be there for each other
*Ask questions
*Be attentive(listen to each other)

For your relationship to remain healthy, you need to take care of yourselves. You have to be physically sound. Your health is important.

Remove that rigidity, work on that principle of yours. It is two individuals involved, making decisions to foster peace. You have to be open to each other and be flexible enough to accommodate ideas and innovations.

Don’t make plans and promises you can not keep. Let the trust button be on high alert

Conflicts are bound to arise. Listen before you talk. Let the talking be one at a time while the other listens. Do not judge, correct where possible in love. The Bible says Let all things be done with dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil, cling to that which is good.

Show it. Be protective of your relationship. Don’t overlook important matters

You are you. You are an original. Don’t compare your relationship with another. Don’t try to meet up, don’t go overboard. Don’t order for food items when you are not financially sound. Don’t buy things on credit to please yourselves. Just maintain your level and rely on God

Let your life reflect the scriptures. Your relationship should be patterned according to the will and purpose of God. Let Christ be seen in your relationship. He should be your first point of call in any arising challenges or progress.

Learn to say “I am sorry” It is very magical. It mends the broken heart. Don’t forget these words in your dictionary. It is very essential in any purpose driven relationship.

Ladies love to be assured over and over again. Never hide your feelings. Show it, affirm it.
Ladies if you love him please show it. We are all humans and we love TLC (Tender Love and Care)

To everyone of us in relationships, I pray for Grace to pull through and fulfill God’s desires for us.

If you’re having challenges with keeping up, pray for strength, wisdom and understanding and happiness shall be all yours in Jesu name.

A beautiful relationship is my prayer for you.

God bless you

Written by Charles Utomi


  1. So much wisdom here, thank you for this sir, More oil.

  2. This is a great piece.
    Thank you Charles

  3. Awww, this was loaded, Thanks my darling, you did well๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

  4. Thank you for this. God bless you

  5. Thank you so much sir
    Very insightful teaching

  6. This is great
    Thank you so much
    More Grace

  7. Mmmmm
    Quite insightful, God bless you and more grace

  8. Very educative.
    Thank you sir and God bless you too.

  9. Balanced
    Thanks sir


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